DOWRY (JAHAIZ), A CURSE

Dowry (jahaiz) is the curse that gives the helpless death to the thousands peoples. In many homes where young girls are stays in their parent’s home for long time just because of this curse. If without Dowry (jahaiz) any girl get married after few days her burnt death body would giving to her parents and her parents cannot say a single word because they don’t have enough money to fight with. An innocent girl whose parents nourish her with lots of love and care would be the victim of Dowry (jahaiz).

The course of Dowry (jahaiz) mostly present in India, Pakistan as well as Bangladesh. In Pakistan’s villages and towns mostly people kill the baby girls without any reason. The abuse rewinds the memories of illiterate era when girls lively buried. They use to bury girls just on the name of honor, and now we are killing girls just for the Dowry (jahaiz)  How long this curse will goes on and how long parents will suffer due to this curse. The fear of Dowry (jahaiz) makes the birth of the girls a disappointing event and they afraid to give birth to girls.

I quote this passage from http://aishaiqbal.blogspot.com/2007/02/bride-burning.html

           

“In the 80's one could see billboards of Sonogram clinics preying on Dowry (jahaiz) fears with ads like "better 500 rupees now than 500,000 later" Between 1981- 1991 over 1 million female fetuses were aborted.

Rich people make that tradition to give the heavy Dowry (jahaiz) to their beloved daughter due to which groom’s families make it their business of income. For the purpose of income they kill or burn the bride and would become free to remarry with new one and they give it a picture of an incident. Where those brides have gone? Few of them have burnt, few of them compelled to suicide, few of them have divorced and they Confiscated their whole Dowry (jahaiz) and the parent stay quite just because of disgrace.

What is dowry (jahaiz)?

Dowry (jahaiz) is the process for the bride family to provide grooms money and expensive goods in exchange of their daughter‘s marriage.

According to the survey, the Dowry (jahaiz) is equal to the seven year’s salary of an employer. It is hardly affordable by parents but they are compelled to give Dowry (jahaiz) with their daughter if they want to marry their daughter.

Why groom’s parent demand dowry (jahaiz)?

Because they want to fulfill their needs and demand which can’t be possible in their son’s income and they want to lift up their living standard in society.

Due to these circumstances some educated people have come up and speak about this curse that they don’t want Dowry (jahaiz)  May majority will get this awareness. And our daughters will marry honorably without Dowry (jahaiz)  Then it will be very good for many and poor parents. No girl will stay at their parent’s home.

Our HOLY PROPHET HAZRAT MUHAMMAD SALLALLAHU ALAIHI WASALLAM has also given Dowry (jahaiz) to his daughter but that Dowry (jahaiz) consists of necessary thing. But we can’t give the practical application like HOLY PROPHET HAZRAT MUHAMMAD SALLALLAHU ALAIHI WASALLAM

A hadith said about this Dowry (jahaiz) as:

“The most advantageous Nikah (wedding) is the one which is the easiest.”

The summary of the hadith is an easy and advantageous is that in which there is no extra burden on the shoulders of bride’s parents by the useless demand of groom’s family.

If we try and try harder there will be a law that to give Dowry (jahaiz) and to take Dowry (jahaiz) is a crime. Today well established people arrange marriages of many girls just for the pleasure of ALLAH and also give necessary thing to bride through which they help poor parents. In the end I pray to ALLAH that may the curse of Dowry (jahaiz) will remove from our country and as well in our culture, and the live of many married girl will may save and secure.

AMEEN SUMMA AMEEN……